Vacation

A couple weeks ago we went to church and I have become extremely excited about the new series that we are currently going thru. Our series is Modern Families and the teachings during service have been really great, with ways to do new things/challenges/homework in the marriage. We missed the first week with friends in town and also missed our first small group gathering as it was right after first service, thank goodness our church puts the audio online to listen to at a later date. Something that really stuck with me was that one of our group leaders for small group stated "take a vacation from your issues," something I know I have a hard time doing. We all carry baggage but we also have different ways to cope with each situation that arises and it made me realize that I have a hard time with my pet peeves and just letting it be. Do not get me wrong, when we take a real vacation and get away I really do not worry about the things at home so much as I do when I am at home. I have such high expectations of myself in my various roles from wife, daughter, sister, friend, employee, and volunteer. For example I want to keep a great home but not be devoured by expectations that I make it an issue, which I am very good at, it can make a good day into an awful day based on how I looked at the situation instead of just taking it as it comes and making the most of it and even when I tried to turn my attitude around I kept thinking about what else could have been done. I recognized this after the fact when I heard the quote at small group that I have issues and need to give it a vacation. It ruins the fun in life and my relationships take a toll. I wrote it on my bathroom mirror as a daily reminder to stop carrying the pressure I give to myself and put on Darren because he cannot read my mind but is willing to help where he can to make life easier on us. I guess I just needed to hear that no matter how little or large the issue I/we can always take a break and get back to it later-whatever it might be.